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WHAT IS DALMATIAN STONE REALLY?
There’s a lot of misinformation out there about what Dalmatian Stone (also called Dalmatian Jasper) really is. First of all, it’s not Jasper. This shouldn’t come as a surprise though because many stones are called Jasper that are not really Jasper at all. It’s become sort of a catch-all name in the crystal world. In the case of Dalmatian Stone, the grey-cream-beige matrix is primarily made up of Feldspar, Quartz, and Amphiboles.
In addition, many people believe that the black spots in Dalmatian Stone are Black Tourmaline. This thought is so prevalent that you can even find it in some otherwise reputable books. However, it is completely untrue. X-ray diffraction has confirmed that the spots are most definitely Arfvedsonite.
So what do we really have here? Arfvedsonite in a matrix of Quartz, Feldspar and Amphoboles with occasionally some other small inclusions such as Epidote and Hematite*.
So, now that we know that the generally accepted composition of Dalmatian Stone is incorrect, does that mean that the metaphysical characteristics that are typically assigned to it are incorrect also?
Well…yes and no. It really depends on the source of your information. Some sources will come up with a definition based on the belief that the black spots are Black Tourmaline and they will talk about typical Black Tourmaline traits such as absorbing negativity and protection. These are definitely not traits of Dalmatian Stone as experienced by most people (if your own personal experience contradicts this, I would never say that it was invalid – everybody’s experiences will be different).
However, I have found that most metaphysical descriptions come from a person’s experiences with the crystal itself and are consistent and valid even though the person had incorrect information about its actual makeup.
In my own personal experience I have found, in agreement with many others, that it is a stone of clarity. If you are confused or need help finding some direction then Dalmatian Stone is the crystal for you. In addition, it is a stone of loyalty. In some ways, this ties back to the clarification factor – but primarily it seems to help you to draw and sustain the loyalty of others in a deeper way than you had before.
In my opinion, this is because the crystal helps you to be both clear and strong, while maintaining qualities of love and compassion. Those who are strong but loving and who are also clear about what they want and not afraid to go after it will naturally attract loyalty from the right kind of people.
One consistently mentioned quality that I have found to be incorrect for many people is that Dalmatian Stone is a crystal for bringing out your inner child and increasing happiness. Personally, I just don’t feel this from Dalmatian Stone, although some of my clients certainly have. But its definitely not a solid in this aspect as, say, Ocean Jasper or Thulite.
Dalmatian stone, for me, is very serious. In fact, it is a crystal of reverence. Once you are seeing clearly what is all around you, you cannot help but develop a reverence for everyone and everything. While reverence can certainly be happy and childlike, in this case it is often more solemn and deeply felt. It is a crystal for those who want to find true meaning within themselves and the world, but who may be having trouble doing so otherwise.
*Mineralogical Source: Gemological Institute of America
CRYSTAL BUYING TIP
I buy 100s of crystals every year for my store and I am always surprised at the number of pieces I find, even from high quality sellers, where the crystal has been coated with a resin. In the lapidary world, this isn’t a bad thing and no one is trying to trick you. Its simply that soft and brittle pieces are extremely hard to polish without breaking so they are used to stabilize the crystal.
When using a resin, the crystal is made to absorb as much of the resin as possible. The rough piece will be coated in it and allowed to sit for a long time and sometimes baked before being polished. Soft crystals will take on a lot of resin because they are very porous. The Lepidolite pictured is a common example. Mica conglomerates like this one are extremely difficult to polish without a resin.
Now, if you’re just purchasing for esthetic reasons or you just like collecting minerals, this doesn’t really matter. But if you are using the crystal for healing purposes, its not likely to do much for you. The vibration of the crystals inside is seriously dampened by the resin – like throwing water on a fire. They just can’t come through much at all.
Epoxy resin coatings are thinner – they are a clear coat of chemical polish over a finished piece and not quite as dampening to the vibration, although the crystal will most certainly not be as strong for healing purposes. This is often done to stabilize, but I also see it on cut geodes because whoever cut them open did not want to bother polishing the rough rim and just slapped on a layer of epoxy to save time.
I typically see resin coatings on softer crystals, and especially those containing Mica. Chrysocolla and Rhodochrosite are popular ones too. Of course, even typically hard crystals can be covered as well because of the time saving that a quick epoxy coating can give and not all soft crystals are coated by any means. For example, although it is extremely soft, I have rarely seen coated Selenite.
Make sure when buying in person that you examine the crystal well – if you look closely under a bright light, you can see coatings. It will either look like a clear coat of paint or you will see a clear-gold layer running through the crystals that seems out of place (the Lepidolite conglomerate pictured is a good example - see how the little pieces of Mica seem to be "floating" in something?). Thick coatings like this will often have bubbles in places as well where it filled in indentations in the crystal – this is a dead giveaway.
If you’re buying online, just ask the seller. Although many sellers have no idea what to look for and may be mistaken in their answer to you, so this is not fool proof. Case in point, I bought this Lepidolite piece from a trusted mineral dealer that I have worked with for years, but they had no idea that it was coated and didn’t really understand. This is common.
Now I don’t mean that you are going to check your collection and find it filled with coated crystals. There are many soft pieces that are dense enough to take a good polish without stabilization. Uncoated polished Lepidolite Micas and Kyanite Mica mixes are not hard to come by. Just be aware. Take the time to not just look at but “feel” a crystal before you decide to buy it – even online. The coated crystals will have a low or dampened energy that is obvious if you are used to working with the real deal. If it feels somehow “off” to you, just don’t get it.
I want to take a few minutes to tell you about one of my favorite crystals that a lot of people aren't too familiar with: Auralite-23. It is similar to Melody's Stone (Super 7) but, for me at least, it is much more powerful. This crystal is a very rare type of Amethyst that can only be found in Canada. Each piece contains a combination of about 2 to 7 different minerals from a list of 23: Titanite, Cacoxenite, Lepidocrosite, Ajoite, Hematite, Magnetite, Pyrite, Goethite, Pyrolusite, Gold, Silver, Platinum, Nickel, Copper, Iron, Limonite, Sphalerite, Covellite, Chalcopyrite, Gialite, Epidote, Bornite and Rutile.
As with any crystal, how you work with it and what it does for/with you will be unique to you. Many of you know that I am not a fan of "text book" crystal descriptions. However, this one fits very well with me and my clients and this crystal is so amazing that I am going to share it with you here:
"It is being called by many as the most powerful crystal to have ever been discovered. It removes the “ticking clock”, replacing it with calmness & deep thoughtful insight. It allows the body to relax & removes tension, headaches, eye strain, stress & muscle pain. Auralite tones down anger & hot tempers. It also raises mindfulness & teaches to think before doing. This stone is also known as the “Ultimate Master Healer” due to its powerful healing properties. The sheer amount of elements found in Auralite is enough to ignite positive changes in a person’s soul. It creates a bridge to the divine & serves as an open channel to the angelic realms & the universe.
It can facilitate connection with spirit guides & bring harmony to your life like you’ve never felt possible before. Auralite works like a magnet, attracting opportunities, situations & people one needs in order to grow as a spiritual being. Work with this stone slowly & get used to it for a time, as it sweeps away debris from your consciousness. It will bring to awareness both the best in you & what you need to improve so you can grow & strive towards your full potential. Just being alone with the stone, is enough for healing to begin."
I do have some available for sale and will post them this weekend, but be forewarned that they are pricey as is all high quality Auralite-23. Whether you get it from me or from someone else though, I highly recommend you get one. They are well worth it!
BUYER'S GIVEAWAY CONTEST!!
Whoever spends the most money on my crystals between now and February 1, 2018 will receive a FREE SYNERGY 12 SET! The set is valued at over $100 retail. I will also throw in a flat Selenite wand in case you want to make a wand out of them. In addition, anyone who spends at least $100 on my crystals between now and February 1st will receive a beautiful piece of Rainbow Moonstone with lots of flash (see pic below). Payment must be received by February 2nd or you will forfeit your prize. Check out all my items and buy now for Valentines Day gifts or for yourself. I pride myself in carrying rare crystals as well as standard ones, so maybe check out something you've never heard of before! Many of these pieces are not well known in the crystal healing community but really should be as they are very powerful. I use many of them all the time in my practice so feel free to ask me questions. Purchases made at www.wildwomanrockandgem.com, https://www.etsy.com/shop/WildWomanRockandGem, https://www.facebook.com/groups/1627402210904909/ will count toward your total. I have tons of great stuff posted already and will be posting more later this week. Good luck! #wildwomanrockandgem#contest
How to Keep From Taking on Other's Negative Energies
Whether you work in a healing field or not, chances are you
are exposed pretty regularly to the negative energies of others. For many people, it is extremely hard to keep
from sucking up those negative energies yourself and suddenly you are feeling
what your client, friend, coworker, etc was giving off. However, with regular practice, it is easy to
keep these energies from affecting you.
I am not going to address relationship issues here. Some of you may be reading this because you are around negative people who you need to cut ties with, but for whatever reason you have not. I leave that to you. In this article I am going to assume that you either do healing work with others, or have normal contact with negativity through day-to-day life and you want to keep it from affecting you.
The absolute, #1 way to keep from sucking up other people’s negative energy is to keep your own vibration as high as possible. For some of you, this is very easy, but for others it will be difficult and you will need to work at it. If you do, I promise, the results will be well worth it and over time it will come naturally to you. Because keeping a high vibration (and I mean HIGH, not just “higher” than the people around you), will be tough at first, I’ll also give you some tips about using crystals and herbs to keep you from sucking up the negative energies while you are working on yourself.
So, lets begin. First, you want focus on seeing the divine spark in all those around you. Everyone, no matter who they are, carries the spark of the divine. In many people it is obvious, but in some it is buried so deep that that you may not believe it is there. But it is. Practice seeing them as perfect – do not “see” the negative aspects of them.
Ghandi said that he was able to love everyone he met no
matter who they were because he knew that in a previous life he had done the
same things they were doing now. We are
all at different stages in our evolution of consciousness, but we are all
ultimately going to end up in the same place.
Where you are right now is absolutely perfect and exactly where you need
to be, right now. It is the same for
everyone around you. Think of this and
use it to develop “unconditional positive regard” for everyone and seeing them
as perfect will begin to come naturally.
Now I know some of you healers in particular are thinking, “If I don’t see the negative, how can I help them work through their issues?” But in fact, by seeing a person as a perfect, divine being, you are raising their vibration far more than you would if you were focusing on the negative. By giving your attention to the negative, you are not only taking it in yourself, but actually increasing it in them because you are causing them to turn their focus to it as well.
In addition, if you are working with this person in a “healer” capacity, by seeing them as a perfect, divine being, you will raise your vibration high enough to get messages from your spirit guides and theirs, which will show you what stones, herbs, techniques, etc they may need much more accurately than any advice that you will learn from a book. These messages will guide you and them to healing the underlying cause, rather than just trying to put a band aid on symptoms.
So, if you are not used to seeing people in this way, you may need some techniques to help you keep that negativity off while you practice keeping your vibration high. My three favorites are getting outdoors, taking certain flower essences, and using Selenite.
If you have already sucked up negative energy and are feeling bad, nothing will pull that out of you faster that Mother Earth. Get outside and sit on the ground if you can. Put at least your bare palms and ideally your bare feet on the earth. I try to walk around or sit barefoot outside for at least 20 minutes every day. Your vibration will instantly be raised and negativity will dissipate.
But even if you can’t touch the Earth, just being outside and breathing the fresh air will help immensely. Go for a walk around your neighborhood or office building. I also try to keep my windows open whenever weather permits – especially if I am conducting a healing session. If you cannot open your windows, make sure to light a few candles – which are great for drawing in negative energy and burning it up.
Another alternative is to take 2-3 drops of a soothing and balancing flower essence such as Rose, Calendula, or Palo Santo in water and sip it slowly. I love essential oils and use them in my healing practice with every client. However, for deep, quick relief, flower essences are the way to go.
You can also lie on your back for 15-20 minutes with a large bar of Selenite down your torso. Little pieces are ok too if that’s all you have, but try to get big ones. The larger the piece, the stronger the vibration and Selenite is relatively inexpensive. If you do healing work, this is a good technique to use on your clients as well. If someone comes in with a lot of negativity, have them lay with the Selenite at the beginning of the session and they will be able to relax better and release some of that negativity, which will help them to be more receptive to the healing.
You can also keep a number of Selenite pieces throughout your work area at all times. Lithium Quartz and Lepidolite are also beneficial stones for wearing and/or placing throughout a healing space to promote relaxation and the release of negativity.
As a healer, I actually prefer to wear the higher vibration and ascension stones to wearing more grounding and protective ones during a healing session. They help me to keep my vibration very high and to receive clear messages from my spirit guides. I typically wear Anandalite and Moldavite. I have had great success with Natrolite as well, although I am not feeling called to wear it so much now.
However, this takes a lot of getting used to. When I first started doing healing work, the grounding stones were much better for me because I was not used to having my vibration so high. After sessions I would feel “spacey” and off balance.
If high vibrations stones affect you this way, wearing the grounding and protective stones is probably a much better solution for now. Over time, as you begin to maintain a high vibration consistently, you will know that you are ready to switch to the higher vibration stones.
For the grounding and protective stones, there are many great ones. Far too many for me to go into here, so I will just give a synopsis of the ones I like best for keeping off negativity in particular: Smokey Quartz, Healer’s Gold, Black Tourmaline, Lodestone, and Black Jade.
The combination of Smokey Quartz and Healers Gold is a winner. You can carry one of each with you, but for the full effect I prefer nugget necklaces. It’s the best way to get the largest amount of the stone on your body. I like to wear a long Smokey Quartz necklace at the same time as a long Healer’s Gold necklace. Nugget (also called “chip”) necklaces aren’t as pretty as some others, but we are going for function here and in that respect, they can’t be beat. Healer’s Gold is a very powerful stone for both grounding and creating positive energy, while the Smokey Quartz acts to clear the Auric Field.
Black Tourmaline is a stone that almost everyone has, and for good reason. It is one of the premier stones for psychic protection and reduction of stress. If you can find a good sized gem quality or polished piece (these are ideal because they will not flake off like many Black Tourmalines will), then keep it under your pillow at night to help release the stress of your day. If you do healing work or are around negative people, wear a nugget necklace and, ideally, place a number of large pieces in your workspace. If you are lucky enough to find a piece with inclusions of Mica, so much the better, because the Mica with help show you a “reflection” of the underlying cause of the negativity.
Lodestone* is great not only for intense grounding, but also for bringing the body back into balance. If you have been absorbing negativity, or feel sick or off for any reason, grab a couple of 2-3 inch pieces and sit comfortably with one piece in each hand. Just relax like this for 10-15 minutes and feel yourself coming quickly back into alignment.
Finally, Black Jade will work in times when it seems like nothing else will. By wearing or carrying Black Jade, you can make yourself practically invisible to negative energies. Energy vampires will get nothing out of being around you and will begin to drop out of your experience. It will clear your Aura and keep it clear.
Of course, if they are being regularly exposed to negativity, all these stones will need to be cleaned from time to time. When they feel like they are not working so well, you know its time to retune them. There are many schools of thought as to how to best clean your stones and I will not go into how to do that here. Just make sure to find a technique that you are comfortable with for the type of stone you are using and keep in mind that not all cleaning techniques are suitable for every crystal. Make sure you are using the most appropriate method for each type of stone.
If you know you are going to be exposed to negativity, it can be helpful to apply a grounding essential oil such as “Grounding” by Young Living or “Balance” by Doterra beforehand. Frankensence is also a good option as it keeps the Auric Field clear. You can create a protective emotional shield for yourself by taking Wild Lavender flower essence as well as Rowan.
Last of all – don’t forget to smudge! Smudge sprays are great, but for getting rid of heavy negativity there is nothing better than burning sage. If you have a very negative client, take them outside and sage them (and yourself!) before the healing session begins. Sage yourself again afterward as well as your healing space if you feel “off”. If you are picking up negativity from friends or co-workers, try to get into the habit of saging yourself and your personal space regularly.
I hope you have found these tips useful. But, as always, your own inner voice is best. Listen to it first and then incorporate whatever else resonates.
Love and Light,
*Always keep magnetic stones away from all other crystals.
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